The version of you that enabled them to behave how it suited them, without honouring you at all.
Their behaviour is a reflection of where they're at, not you. And it's not up to you to change, to rescue them or go through 'lessons' and 'growth' to keep the relationship amicable.
Nor is it honouring you to continue the 'loving' relationship, as they call it, while they continue to undermine everything you do.
When you love yourself enough, all of your relationships/interactions will be blissful expressions and a joy for both of you. Be prepared to drop and run until this becomes your daily experience.
This isn't running away from your 'issues' as some therapists would have you believe... it's a way of deeply honouring yourself, acknowledging how far you've come/grown, and recognition of the expansion of the love of the creator within you
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